I have never seen a collective of people who so often refuse consensus as much as feminists do.

Fuck all feminism, right in the ear.

They 'deferred' to Congress there. Of course, note that the 14th Amendment by its plain language should prohibit affirmative action programs {no matter if you agree with AA as social policy, that is a separate matter from the *legal* analysis of 'equal protection under the law'} but in those cases the SC felt free to intervene and in essence legislate based on the *ends* they anticipated, rather than the means.

As with the phenomena of feminists taking umbrage at the {rare} rape joke – it's only when it's about a woman. These same feminists have not in any significant way protested the fact that male rape or violence against male genitals is bloody well a *staple* of sitcoms, films, and hack stand ups everywhere.

The common thread is men's lives and suffering and emotion are accorded less value than women's. A military in which women aren't forced into combat positions or can, possibly, "choose" combat positions {and yes there's been significant blurring anyway} means that when women enter the military, they will be taking, on average, less dangerous jobs with better post-military training, which pushes men into unskilled, infantry or support roles. This isn't fair, it's simply that this notion of "white male privilege" is little more than philosophical sophistry, making "the white male" into a monolith defined by the 0.01% who have great power.

"Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their "traditional" marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate "nice guys." The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don't is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of any gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it's unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.

Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you." (Lindy West)

& Lastly, I am a MALE feminist, just in case ye think of personally attacking me.

It only does this through cultural influence, especially socialization. Take religion for example, it establishes both genders and how the genders relate. If we stop paying attention to gender – we then stop discriminating. Because if a woman is seen as caring and nurturing, which is 'supposedly' suppose to define her as an individual, could be true for some women. But some women do not care for children nor do they want to have children, nor do they feel that they should sacrifice their livelihood for the sake of others. This is what essentially means to be a woman, if you pay attention to gender essentialism it says that the woman will do the work for free or that she will automatically 'care' and 'nurture' you like a nanny or a nurse would. this is highly insulting to females and our dignity. Paying attention to gender is sexism in some way or the other. I still think that individual feminism is the only way to go, especially if you seek gender equality. This is my essay discussing objectivism and its compatibility with feminism; http://beyondenlightenment.wordpress.com/2013/06/…
My recent post Why I will Never Support Jezebel and its Propaganda

Feminists are not angry that you point out that women can be abusive, feminists are angry that you derail their discussions about violence against women to discuss violence against men. We cannot have a conversation about our oppression without someone chiming in with all the problems that men face. It's not the time, nor the place. My own issue tends to be then with men's rights types who misrepresent or just completely fabricate statistics on the topic, or the ones who just seem to want permission to beat abusive women up. No I will not take you seriously if you present me with assstats, no I will not condone anything beyond subduing someone else in the name or self defense.

Second point is pure straw feminism. While I have no doubt that some people who call themselves feminists have said, "kill all men," it's not in line with feminist belief and is more a knee-jerk reaction of some very angry women. I have only seen feminists who say ignorant things like that get called out. We collect our own more than you apparently want to admit.

Nobody is demonizing your sexuality unless you believe that your sexuality includes raping women. How do you not know that the standards of beauty are a product of popular culture? Look at old paintings, old ads that encourage weight gain, etc. If you're blindly preferring the types of women being fed to you by the mass media that's your own problem because you're not likely to find many women who are that skinny. I'm not sure which straw feminist insisted you just accept any willing woman and not have preferences. The closest thing I've ever heard is not to call women superficial for passing up a man who doesn't put the same effort into maintaining his appearance as she does. If you're allowed to have standards, so are we. I don't even want to hear this way stations bit. It's just gross.

Feminists are the ones painted men as rabid animals? Excuse me, but feminists hold men up to higher standards than many seem to want to hold themselves. The whole point is to not force yourself upon a woman which includes staring her down. Nobody thinks you can't find a woman attractive, it's when you infringe upon her space and refuse to control yourself that there's a problem.

This whole thing, ughh. Why did I bother?

If we had a history rich with equal rights for all that didn't oppress one sex there would be no reason to be "obsessed" with gender and we could all call ourselves egalitarian and call it a day. Unfortunately we're not living in that world and we have not come far enough or made enough progress to remove ourselves from that history. So until that day comes some of us have to "obsess" over our gender in order to maintain the rights we do have and continue to move towards a level playing field.

Every single thing you have mentioned, when there is a bias, is of men's own doing. The desire to be the perceived as the dominant sex. Every feminist that I know is working to deconstruct these gender roles which will ultimately effect positive change for everything you've mentioned.

But good job rushing in to change the topic of feminism to another "what about teh menz?" discussion. Always derailing.

Great post!

http://www.theindividualistfeminist.com
My recent post Happy International Women's Day!